About Abuse

Information for Teens

Updated: 
December 29, 2015

Checklist: Am I being abused?

Many people don't recognize that they are in an abusive relationship. They don't realize how they have gradually changed because of the abuse.

Are you a victim of dating violence? Answer the questions below. If you answer yes to even one of them, you may be in an abusive relationship, or your relationship is likely to become abusive. Abuse isn't just hitting. It's yelling, threatening, name-calling, saying things like, "I'll kill myself if you leave me," obsessive phone calling, emailing, IMing or texting, and extreme possessiveness.

Does your boyfriend/girlfriend:

  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
  • Act jealous or possessive?
  • Put you down or criticize you?
  • Try to control where you go, what you wear or what you do?
  • Text or IM you excessively?
  • Blame you for the hurtful things s/he says or does?
  • Threaten to kill or hurt you or himself/herself if you leave him/her?
  • Try to stop you from seeing or talking to friends and family?
  • Try to force you to have sexual contact before you're ready?
  • Do s/he hit, slap, push or kick you?